KNOW How Valuable You Are…(best relationship tool ever)

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KNOW How Valuable You Are…(best relationship tool ever)

… And never EVER let a guy determine your value. Too many women are unconscious of all the great qualities they bring to a relationship because they’ve subscribed to what they’ve been told in the past. What they don’t understand is, “you are who you are, not what others have told you you are.”



Sure, there’s something to be said for listening and seeing where improvements can be made as a human being. If you consistently find yourself being sidelined it’s important to examine yourself and see where growth can be made. But our brains have a survival instinct to ignore the positives and hold on to negative memories to avoid repeating potentially life-risking behaviours. Because of that, women can lose sight of how valuable they are and as a result, have relationship standards that are far too low.

Clarity of self is a vital factor in finding a great partner. Once you realize just how amazing you are you’re significantly more apt to attract an amazing partner. Remember, like attracts like!

Becoming cognizant of all your great qualities opens you to accepting recognition by someone else, and until you’re open to being acknowledged for being AMAZING you’re putting an invisible barrier between you and a sincerely loving and supportive relationship.

So take out a piece of paper today and write “I am” at the top. Think about everything you know is wonderful about you, and write it down. I am caring. I am thoughtful. I am affectionate. I am resourceful. What about what your friends say about you? I am funny. I am a good friend. I am sociable. I am fun.
If you haven’t written at least 40 “I am” statements you’re not digging deep enough. Keep going.

Put this paper on your fridge, and add more as they come up. Really make understanding yourself and all that makes you “wonderful, amazing YOU” a project. Know that as you grow and evolve there will be more to add!

Remember, like attracts like, so the more you love yourself the more you’re open to being loved.

Here’s what you can do going forward:  

If you’re looking for someone who’s ready to commit and want to make sure your next kiss is with someone who’s ready, get a copy of No More Assholes and find someone seriously amazing and ready to commit. He’s out there, I promise.



If he’s ready to commit and it’s time to take it to the next stage (woohoo!), read After The First Kiss – 7 Steps to Making Your First Year Together Ridiculously Awesome  and make sure you’re creating a strong foundation together.

This is the book that helps you avoid turning little things into big fights, and you’ll love how the advice inside helps you create the Magical relationship you’re looking for. Peaceful, cohesive, passionate, and intimate.


Need help figuring the whole thing out? Let’s work together one on one so you can gain the clarity and peace of mind you need right now. My specialty is your peace of mind, and I’m adept at giving the perspective you need along with the tools you’ll use to start feeling happier, clearer, and on your way to the Love you want ASAP.


Look, nothing sucks more than giving your heart to someone who isn’t giving theirs back.


If this is something you’ve done too often it’s time to break that pattern, and lucky for you, you’ve met the pattern breaker. You’ll use different behaviors so you get a different outcome, and I know how to trigger a man’s brain in all the right spots.

Your happiness depends on your decisions first and foremost, not his, and I’m the Sherpa who carries the burden of knowledge and shows you the way.


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Chantal Heide – Canada’s Dating Coach

Chantal Heide is an Author and Motivational Speaker, focusing on dating and relationship building. Her books Dating 101, Comeback Queen, Fake Love Need Not Apply, No More Assholes, After The First Kiss, Fix That Shit, Say Yes To Goodness, and Custom Made (available on this website, Amazon, and your favorite online book retailer) help her readers attract the love they’re looking for, regardless of their starting point . View her BOOKS page for more information. Be sure to check out more free advice on Facebook, YouTube, and Itunes, as well as fun tidbits about her life on Instagram and Twitter.

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