Why Are Women Calling Women Bitch?

I love contributing to advice columns where readers get to weigh in and offer their own two cents; the insight they give me into the collective consciousness is indispensable to my sociological mind. What I find most surprising is the number of women who back the theory that a women who sets standards and stick to them is a demanding “bitch” who should do her boyfriend a favour and leave him, I guess so he can find a woman who will silently endure the broken promises and lack of consideration. I actually had to say to a WOMAN “it’s okay for a man to do something to make his woman happy!”

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You want a marriage proposal before dumping your life and following your boyfriend across the country? You’re asking too much. You’re considering breaking up with your boyfriend because you stated smoking was a deal breaker from the get go and he’s back to lighting up? You’re a bitch.

Why do we live in a society where women’s standards are knocked down by both sexes? Why have women’s needs been pushed back so far that to even voice them opens them up for criticism and name calling? Why are WOMEN calling other women bitches for wanting commitment or kept promises?!

Make sure the one you’re choosing for a relationship is the right one.

I understand that as women we are in a subconscious competition for resources (men) despite the fact that in today’s world we are more than capable of looking out for ourselves. I understand that the notion that women are best taught to be dis-empowered by men in order to be more controllable and easier to please has been woven into our culture. What I don’t understand is women who are not banding together with their fellow woman and backing them up when they dare stand up and ask for more…more being equality and consideration.

If I could write a set of rules for women, it would be this:

1 – Thou shalt  not call another woman a bitch for wanting something better for herself
2 – Thou shalt support other women when they stand up for their standards instead of giving in to what men want
3 – Thou shalt not verbally strike down a woman for having a different set of needs and standards than you
4 – Thou shalt recognize and overcome your instinctive competitive nature and seek to work together with love and support
5 – Thou shalt contribute to the collective power of women to advance in this mans world and make it a safer place in all ways for all women

Is this too much to ask? I sure hope not.

Here’s what you can do going forward:  

When you’re serious about sharing your next kiss is with someone who’s ready, get a copy of No More Assholes and find someone seriously amazing and ready to commit. He’s out there, I promise.

If he’s ready to commit and it’s time to take it to the next stage (woohoo!), read After The First Kiss – 7 Steps to Making Your First Year Together Ridiculously Awesome  and make sure you’re creating a strong foundation together.

This is the book that helps you avoid turning little things into big fights, and you’ll love how the advice inside helps you create the Magical relationship you’re looking for. Peaceful, cohesive, passionate, and intimate.

Need help figuring the whole thing out? Let’s work together one on one so you can gain the clarity and peace of mind you need right now. My specialty is your peace of mind, and I’m adept at giving the perspective you need along with the tools you’ll use to start feeling happier, clearer, and on your way to the Love you want ASAP.

Look, nothing sucks more than giving your heart to someone who isn’t giving theirs back.

If this is something you’ve done too often it’s time to break that pattern, and lucky for you, you’ve met the pattern breaker. You’ll use different behaviors so you get a different outcome, and I know how to trigger a man’s brain in all the right spots.

Your happiness depends on your decisions first and foremost, not his, and I’m the Sherpa who carries the burden of knowledge and shows you the way.

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Chantal Heide – Canada’s Dating Coach

Chantal Heide is an Author and Motivational Speaker, focusing on dating and relationship building. Her books Dating 101, Comeback Queen, Fake Love Need Not Apply, No More Assholes, After The First Kiss, Fix That Shit, Say Yes To Goodness, and Custom Made (available on this website, Amazon, and your favorite online book retailer) help her readers attract the love they’re looking for, regardless of their starting point . View her BOOKS page for more information. Be sure to check out more free advice on Facebook, YouTube, and Itunes, as well as fun tidbits about her life on Instagram and Twitter.

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