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DADS: BE The First Man Your Daughter Dates & Set The Standard

I often hear parents voice their concern about who will be the first guy their daughter dates.

Is he going to be douchey? Is he going to get her pregnant? Is she going to be too young to be dealing with boys, period?

Listen, if you’re worried about these things, then it’s up to you to step in and set the standard you want her to fall in love with. Yes, you heard me, date your goddam daughter.


I really want you to think carefully of what sort of behaviour you want from the guy who’s going to hang around her. Should he compliment her, or do you want him to “put her in her place?”  Should he open doors for her? Bring her a flower and say he thought of her when he saw it? Should he let her know every day that she’s special, kind, and the prettiest girl ever?

Should he respect her body, her boundaries, her words? Should he listen carefully after asking her how she’s been since the last time they talked?

Should he do something to make her smile every day?

Like, send a text that lets her know something he admires, loves, or appreciates about her? Or maybe it’ll be something about a sweet memory he has of them together. Something like that, every day. Just to make her have a happy moment, because she’s worth it?

Would he?

If that’s what you want for your little girl, to settle for nothing less than CLOSE to that, then it’s up to you to show her just what THAT looks like, so she recognizes it when she sees it. So she appreciates it when she has it. So she formulates it in her mind so it can materialize in her world, because that’s what she’ll want and she won’t settle for anything that even resembles pressure or disrespect.

Because if you don’t… if you just grumble and complain about her friends who are having sex at 14 and 13 because their daddy’s are ONLY grumbling about the boys their little girls hang out with (if at all), while doing nothing to show her what she should be expecting… well. Fingers crossed.


Here’s what you can do going forward:

If he’s NOT ready to commit and you’re tired of this scenario, or just want to make sure your next kiss is with someone who’s ready, get a copy of No More Assholes and find someone seriously amazing and ready to commit. He’s out there, I promise.



If he’s ready to commit and it’s time to take it to the next stage (woohoo!), read After The First Kiss – 7 Steps to Making Your First Year Together Ridiculously Awesome  and make sure you’re creating a strong foundation together.

This is the book that helps you avoid turning little things into big fights, and you’ll love how the advice inside helps you create the Magical relationship you’re looking for. Peaceful, cohesive, passionate, and intimate.


Need help figuring the whole thing out? Let’s work together one on one so you can gain the clarity and peace of mind you need right now. My specialty is your peace of mind, and I’m adept at giving the perspective you need along with the tools you’ll use to start feeling happier, clearer, and on your way to the Love you want ASAP.


Look, nothing sucks more than giving your heart to someone who isn’t giving theirs back.


If this is something you’ve done too often it’s time to break that pattern, and lucky for you, you’ve met the pattern breaker. You’ll use different behaviors so you get a different outcome, and I know how to trigger a man’s brain in all the right spots.

Your happiness depends on your decisions first and foremost, not his, and I’m the Sherpa who carries the burden of knowledge and shows you the way.


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Chantal Heide – Canada’s Dating Coach

Chantal Heide is an Author and Motivational Speaker, focusing on dating and relationship building. Her books Dating 101, Comeback Queen, Fake Love Need Not Apply, No More Assholes, After The First Kiss, Fix That Shit, Say Yes To Goodness, and Custom Made (available on this website, Amazon, and your favorite online book retailer) help her readers attract the love they’re looking for, regardless of their starting point . View her BOOKS page for more information. Be sure to check out more free advice on Facebook, YouTube, and Itunes, as well as fun tidbits about her life on Instagram and Twitter.

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