I won’t lie, flirting is an art. You not only have to know how to get a man’s attention in a way that will trigger his happy spots, but you also have to have the courage to do it! Guts, technique, execution, leaving an impression, are all the steps to effective flirting so it’s no wonder it’s such a huge thing to get it right. Not to mention the cultural stigma that it makes a woman too “bold, overbearing, desperate” and whatever else you’ve heard that’s turned you off from being the one to approach a man, it’s not surprising women don’t know which way to turn nowadays. But here’s the thing…unless you become the one to flirt your way into a relationship, you’re stuck picking from the men who are going to attempt to choose you. While this may sound nice on the surface, you’re missing out on a ton of opportunities, like the guys who are checking you out from the corner of their eyes thinking, “geez, there’s no way she’d go for someone like me”. Now I know, you’re thinking if he doesn’t have the balls to come approach you then surely he doesn’t have what it takes to have a lasting, passionate, intimate relationship. Wrong. He may just be unassuming, shy, somewhat introverted, or has been burned too many times himself and is a little uncertain of his own choosing abilities. Or he may just plain suck at flirting. But ladies, this could also be the guy who’s going to treat you like gold and be completely faithful and devoted! You don’t know. Yet.
So don’t wait for a guy’s gut to tell him to come talk to you. Listen to yours, trust yours, and act on yours! If you look at a guy and feel that “oo la la”, that’s your first sign, and a signal to do something! But what you ask? Well, here’s the flirting 101 breakdown;
Try these steps and see how many calls you get!
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Chantal Heide is an Author and Motivational Speaker, focusing on dating and relationship building. Her books Dating 101, Comeback Queen, Fake Love Need Not Apply, No More Assholes, After The First Kiss, Fix That Shit, Say Yes To Goodness, and Custom Made (available on this website, Amazon, and your favorite online book retailer) help her readers attract the love they’re looking for, regardless of their starting point . View her BOOKS page for more information. Be sure to check out more free advice on Facebook, YouTube, and Itunes, as well as fun tidbits about her life on Instagram and Twitter.