Single Ladies Fear Not the Lonesome Valentine’s Day!

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Single Ladies Fear Not the Lonesome Valentine’s Day!


Valentine’s Day is almost here! Hearts are literally everywhere, sweet messages of love and devotion litter every social media platform, red and pink adorn every store window and display. Love is in the air!



And you’re going to spend February 14th alone because you’re single.

Don’t despair!

First let me be clear about something. Valentine’s Day is a chocolate holiday. It’s an excuse to canoodle. It’s for sweethearts/ It does not exist to make you feel like a failure because you’re single.

Because if you are single you are NOT a failure! You are choosey, wise, smart, special, and biding your time until the right man walks into your life. You ROCK! It doesn’t matter why you’re single on Valentine’s Day, you rock, you will find love again, and Valentine’s Day is a fun day to celebrate love even when you don’t have anyone to share your heart with.

Whether you’re getting together with some fellow single ladies or you’re going it alone, here are some ways to attend to matters of the single heart on Valentine’s Day.

Fall in love with love

It’s easy for singles to spit on Valentine’s Day, why not challenge yourself to celebrate love and remind yourself why you’re in the dating game? Put together a playlist of your favourite love songs and tackle some organizational problem you’ve been putting off. Put on a bunch of your favourite romantic movies and pull out all your craft stuff and scrapbook or make all the birthday cards you’ll need for March. Curl up with a glass of wine or a pot of tea and reread your favourite romance novel (the bridal quartet series by Nora Roberts is phenomenal).

Have you put dating on pause? Sort through your baggage and throw it out!

What better day to truly be free of failed romance than Valentine’s Day? Spend some quality time with your heart and be honest about what’s been holding you back. It might be you! Own up the real reason you’re single. Do you compare dates to an ex? Are you afraid of being dumped? Do past mistakes haunt you? Have you just been burned too many times? Whether you’re dating after divorce, or are ready to give up trying to figure out what men want in a woman, say goodbye to that negativity forever and look forward to a fresh start. Be comfortable with being single, there’s nothing wrong with it and so much right with you. Then put on your favourite chick flick and give yourself a fist-bump. You got this!

Open your heart to the possibility

With rom-coms on every channel, it’s easy to remind yourself that you’re holding out for that guy from the movie who made every woman’s heart skip a beat. Sister, I gotta tell you; he’s not real! He is a creation, literally a fantasy.

It’s great to be picky, and it’s solid credit to yourself if you have a list of qualities you want in a man. But this isn’t a movie. Keep your list close at hand, but this Valentine’s Day give some thought to going on a date with your polar opposite. Maybe the reason you haven’t met the man of your dreams is because he’s hiding in unexpected packaging. You don’t have to kiss a few frogs – remember the 3 month rule – but it might pay off to say yes to a date with a man who doesn’t check off all your mate-must-haves at first sight. Give love a fair chance!

And above all this Valentine’s Day remember; all that candy is on sale on the 15th!



Here’s what you can do going forward:  

When it’s time to find your soulmate, get a copy of No More Assholes and find someone seriously amazing and ready to commit. He’s out there, I promise.



If he’s ready to commit and it’s time to take it to the next stage (woohoo!), read After The First Kiss – 7 Steps to Making Your First Year Together Ridiculously Awesome  and make sure you’re creating a strong foundation together.

This is the book that helps you avoid turning little things into big fights, and you’ll love how the advice inside helps you create the Magical relationship you’re looking for. Peaceful, cohesive, passionate, and intimate.


Need help figuring the whole thing out? Let’s work together one on one so you can gain the clarity and peace of mind you need right now. My specialty is your peace of mind, and I’m adept at giving the perspective you need along with the tools you’ll use to start feeling happier, clearer, and on your way to the Love you want ASAP.


Look, nothing sucks more than giving your heart to someone who isn’t giving theirs back.


If this is something you’ve done too often it’s time to break that pattern, and lucky for you, you’ve met the pattern breaker. You’ll use different behaviors so you get a different outcome, and I know how to trigger a man’s brain in all the right spots.

Your happiness depends on your decisions first and foremost, not his, and I’m the Sherpa who carries the burden of knowledge and shows you the way.


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Chantal Heide – Canada’s Dating Coach

Chantal Heide is an Author and Motivational Speaker, focusing on dating and relationship building. Her books Dating 101, Comeback Queen, Fake Love Need Not Apply, No More Assholes, After The First Kiss, Fix That Shit, Say Yes To Goodness, and Custom Made (available on this website, Amazon, and your favorite online book retailer) help her readers attract the love they’re looking for, regardless of their starting point . View her BOOKS page for more information. Be sure to check out more free advice on Facebook, YouTube, and Itunes, as well as fun tidbits about her life on Instagram and Twitter.

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